You’d think that by the time you got to 30 that you would be a better judge of character, that you would no longer have to weed out the poisonous friends from the healthy ones but I guess not. It’s a difficult decision to make to decide to no longer be in touch with someone whose friendship is a drain.

Of course all friendship’s have their ups and downs – every relationship does but deciding to say ‘enough is enough’ and to walk away is one of the toughest thing to do.

The best we can hope for is that the friendship fizzles out, that you just amicably drift apart and no one’s feelings really get hurt. Or you have a blow up, things get said or implied and your true feeling come to the fore and that’s the end of that. The worst though is, as immature as it sounds, when these friends stay in contact and they become that person that always lurks on the side as you try and pretend that they no longer exist.

Not Goth, 34. Redondo Beach.